If you grew up shouldering responsibilities that weren’t yours—whether that meant caring for younger siblings, managing household tasks, or acting as your parent’s emotional support system—you likely experienced parentification. At the time, you may not have even realised it was happening. It was just “normal.”

If you spent your childhood feeling more like a caregiver than a child, you might have experienced parentification—a role reversal where a child takes on responsibilities that should have belonged to an adult.

Maybe you were the one making sure your younger siblings were fed and dressed for school. Maybe you found yourself calming down your parent after their bad day or acting as their emotional support system. At the time, it may have felt normal—or even like something to be proud of. But the truth is, being forced to grow up too fast has lasting effects on your emotional well-being, self-worth, and relationships.

You were likely a child that was seen as responsible, in control, and able to handle “grown-up” issues and be involved in “grown-up” decisions with your parents. You might feel like you don’t really remember being a “kid”, and feel like it’s safer to be self-reliant than to depend on others.