Have you ever been told, “You’re just too nice for your own good”? On the surface, being agreeable and conflict-avoidant might seem like a good thing. After all, you’re keeping the peace, making others happy, and avoiding drama. But beneath the surface, being ‘too nice’ often comes at a hidden cost—one that impacts your emotional, mental, and relational well-being.

If you grew up with at least one emotionally immature parent, chances are you know a thing or two about being a people-pleaser. That sinking feeling when you think someone is upset with you—the way it can feel life-shattering—might be all too familiar.